I've known my word for a few weeks now...
I'm
excited about it and everything it means to me. This word will not only
shape my life but also the direction of my blog, which I've struggled
with in the past.
Deliberate:
1. done consciously and intentionally
2. careful and unhurried
It's
what I'm about completely (or at least working towards). I spend time
reading and researching until something feels right to me.
Maybe this is easy for others but for me it takes time.
To
be deliberate you need to know what you stand for. You can't just
follow the crowd and go along with whatever everyone else is doing. You
need to examine your beliefs and your patterns and work out what you've
picked up along the way and what is authentically you. It's important
to know what you're willing to sacrifice and what you're willing to work
hard for. What you're willing to let go of and what you're going to
hold onto with all of your being. It takes looking at your own values
and ethics and what you believe your purpose is in this world and how to
align yourself with it all. Being deliberate is a life long journey of
discovery, tweaking and adjusting, creating and celebrating your unique
self and what you bring to the world that no-one else can.
I
want to be a deliberate mother...for me this means I treat my children
how I would like to be treated. I want them to feel loved, heard and
supported. I want to treat them with respect. I want them to believe
in themselves and follow their hearts. I want us all to feel connected
as a family. I want to continue to work on the example I'm setting as
their mother and as a role model.
I want to be
deliberate in my health...for me this means eating whole foods as close
to nature as possible. Being mindful of what I'm consuming including
medications and also mindful of what is going on my skin as well. A big
challenge for me will be adding in regular exercise into my days. By
this time next year I want it to be such a habit that I won't even have
to think about it. Of course, this will take a lot of reprogramming to
get back in this mindset. I have been there before though, so I know I
can do it again. It means taking time to relax and just be. To enjoy
nature and meditate. To stretch and move my body. To respect myself.
I
want to be deliberate in my marriage and relationships...for me this
means being mindful of my emotional reactions and working out where they
come from and how I can handle it practically. This skill alone has
helped me immensely. When we react, we feel that pang in our belly or
our chest, even our throat and we often let our emotion fly straight out
with accusations and stories of how others are wronging us. I love the
quote: "Seek first to understand, then be understood". My goodness it
can make the world of difference if we can understand those around us
before we try and push our own agenda! It takes practise though.
It means loving people unconditionally. It means supporting, encouraging and lifting others up.
I
want to be deliberate in how I spend my time...for me this means
scheduling in what really matters to me and to our family. We do not
thrive as a busy, fast paced family. We all enjoy our moments of peace
and quiet, but do we ever love a bit of fun and adventure. It will mean
being mindful as to what each of us needs at different times. A
balancing act, but one that will lead us to our own individual bliss
points.
Being deliberate will cross every aspect of
my life. From growing my garden, creating and managing our budget and
finances to simply living our every day life.
I will
have moments where I fail and fall, I'll be uncertain and undecided,
but I'll be sure to pick myself back up again and keep on growing,
learning and moving forward.
2014 looks to be an exciting year for our family with the continued
building of our home, 3 little boys in school (Louis - Grade 3, Dylan - Grade 1 and Ethan - Prep) and Jayden attending 3yo kinder!
I
honestly couldn't be more happy and grateful to start off the year as
we are. Our life isn't perfect by any stretch, but I will continue to
find the joy in the imperfections of it and life lessons in the
challenges that we face.
Happy 2014 to you all! I hope this year brings you much health, happiness and abundance!
Linking up with Maxabella loves for her annual one word linky!